You have to know what you want

Ask the Coach

By Marshall Brown, CPCC, President, Marshall Brown & Associates, Washington
published in AssociationTRENDS. reprinted with permission.

Q. I am really confused. I hardly know what I want in life anymore. Any suggestions?

Although I am not clear on exactly what you might be confused about in your life, I do have some thoughts on the matter. I also encourage our readers to submit their solutions to your question ­ since I know you aren¹t the only one who struggles with this.

"Once you change the way you are inside, the outer world changes," author Joe Vitale said in his recent bestseller The Attractor Factor.

Vitale is one of dozens of authors who write persuasively on the subject, as is Sonia Choquette, author of Your Heart¹s Desire: Creating the Life You Really Want. Most suggest the same key ingredients for attracting into your life what you want:

* Get clear on what you want and why. It¹s not enough to know what you don't want. You can¹t get what you want until you know what that is. Getting crystal clear is where the ³magic² of attraction all begins.

* Imagine it. Envision getting what you want in your mind. ³Conscious change is brought about by the two qualities inherent in consciousness: attention and intention,² Deepak Chopra wrote in his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. ³Attention energizes, and intention transforms. Whatever you put your attention on will grow stronger in your life.²

* Keep yourself receptive. Exercise, eat healthily, play, relax. Stress, exhaustion, sluggishness, etc., can all interfere with attraction. In a radio station analogy, stresses become the ³static² that interferes with the ³frequencies² of that which you want to attract. Though taking a day off to relax rather than working frantically might seem as difficult as stepping off a precipice, it can be just what is needed.

* Listen to your intuitive nudges. Attracting what you want out of life isn¹t about sitting back and waiting for it all to come to you. Action is always required to meet goals and make dreams come true. Vitale wrote, ³Your job is to ask for what you want, and then to act on the inner nudges you get to do things, like make phone calls, write letters, visit a certain person, or whatever.² Don¹t worry if your ³nudges² don¹t make immediate sense. The ³why² will reveal itself later.

* Surrender control. This means you need to let go and trust. Let go of the particular way in which you think things will happen. Let go of fear, doubt, worry and disappointment. Let go of the notion of struggle. Trust that the outcome will be just right when you arrive. Whether it¹s a job promotion, landing that huge client, or buying a new house, claim your dream. It¹s yours if you want it.

Marshall Brown, a certified career and executive coach has always had a passion for helping people find ways to live more fulfilling lives. As a coach, Brown helps individuals to find their passions and encourages them to move ahead in reaching their goals. His book, High Level Resumes, reflects his successful work with hundreds of job candidates. Reach him at marshall@mbrownassociates.com.

Ask the Coach addresses questions and concerns of assn professionals about their careers. Send your questions to marshall@mbrownassociates.com.

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